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For more than forty years, the women living in New Amsterdam New York City experienced more autonomy, more rights and more income than other colonial women.


The awkward dance begins of who will grab for that check.

Will your date pay or will you? Should you go halfsies with it?

These gender roles can be tough to deal with and be frustrating on your finances. So, instead of your date picking up the tab, you pay for your own share.

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Add money politics to the equation and things can get even more, well, awkward. Think about it: money is powerful. So, when your date decides to pay on the first date — without knowing you well — this can carry some unwritten implications or expectations. On the flip-side, if things are going swimmingly and your date foots the bill, this may come with some unwritten expectations. Of course, you may not want to think about this scenario, but you likely know that your date expects more than dinner conversation.

For example, I have a single friend who goes on many dates. And, she insists on paying her part of the bill on a first date. She feels this levels the playing field and avoids awkwardness or presumptions.

In fact, according to a Refinery29 poll on the topic, 59 percent of women think men should always pay for a first date. When it comes to sharing the bill, 60 percent of women said they will split the bill evenly or partially.

Navigating these waters can be tough.

Let’s go dutch: why you should always pay for yourself on a first date

No harm, no foul. If you like your date, this is a good time to invite her out again. This may not sound so romantic, but it can prove to be the best way to keep both your finances and dating on solid footing. This is for informational purposes only. Chime does not provide financial, legal, or ing advice. This material has been prepared for informational purposes only, and is not intended to provide, and should not be relied on for financial, legal or ing advice.

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By Melanie Lockert. Going dutch, in turn, helps avoid both weird dynamics and hidden expectations. Clearly, there are a lot of nuances and expectations when it comes to gender roles and dating.

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Melanie Lockert is the founder of the blog and author of the book, Dear Debt. She is also the co-founder of the Lola Retreat, which helps bold women face their fears, own their dreams and figure out a plan to be in control of their finances. All Rights Reserved.

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